This sketch if of a conversation I had with a senior psychotherapist though she was not mine, I was consulting her. I told her about my difficult experiences of bereavement. She said "Your pain makes me want to turn away from you", or similar. Gestalt psychotherapists might notice that she stays in dialogue as she withdraws, she is expressing her own phenomenologically, self disclosing and bring authentic. I.e. she ticks all the boxes have an excellent start psychotherapist. What she doesn't do the only thing that's needed in a moment like this, engagement, empathy, compassion, wisdom, and yes, maybe a bit of horror too. What I realised is a lot of therapists are good therapists not because of training though because of the things that they process themselves in their own lives. I have met people have been through similar life experiences to me and I can practically spot them across the room. If something like this happens to you in Therapy your therapist may be doing her work by the book, though I do recommend finding a different therapist who is able to engage with the issue with you, probably somebody who specialises in the nature of your problem. Although what this therapist does is technically correct it does not help the healing process in the client at all. All it does is solidify the adaptation in the client which she is trying to come out of. She tries to break her isolation, and the therapist compounds the problem rather than healing, just like in life, the tendency of others to withdraw and turn away from those who experience difficult things, which can develop into mental health problems.